About Val Nelson - Coach for Introverts

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The “Wrong Age” for Finding Work, Changing Careers, or Starting a Business?

There’s something about this idea of being the “wrong age” that comes up so much when I first speak with someone about their career or self-employment concerns.

You might be surprised that I hear this same worry no matter the person’s age! They can be 20, 30, 40, 50, or 60, and somehow they think it’s the “wrong age.” I would laugh if it weren’t so sad.

feeling the wrong age

For instance, I hear all these kinds of things, regularly:

  • “I’m 33 so it’s really late to be figuring this out.”
  • “I’m 25 so it’s really late to be figuring this out.”
  • “I’m embarrassed I don’t know what I want to do at age 50.”
  • “Nobody will hire me now that I’m over 50.”
  • “I’m too old to do that.”
  • “I’m too young to be taken seriously.”
  • “I’m too old to start a business.”
  • “I’m too young to start a business.”
  • “They want younger workers who know the latest technology.”
  • “They want someone with more years of experience.”

Here’s what I’ve discovered is more true than any of that: Continue reading

The In-Between Time in Your Career: 3 Things That Got Me Through It.

Being between jobs, or waiting for the next right work to reveal itself, is just hard.

When I first wished for and wondered about self-employment, and was burning out in the job I was in, I remember feeling discouraged, that self-employment would never actually work for me. At the same time I didn’t want a boss any longer. So I felt stuck in the hallway.

I was in the in-between time: Ready for one door to close before I could see the next door open. Not comfortable.

I’ll explain 3 key ingredients that got me through that time. All 3 were eye-openers for me. Continue reading

Oh, These Poignant Holidays… and Now This Too.

The thermometer is dropping as we approach winter solstice in the Northern Hemisphere, and yet the stress thermometer seems to be heating up right now, in this holiday season.

Of course this holiday stress happens every year, but I’m finding this year is more poignant and palpable than ever. It feels like my heart is aching for everyone.

Every conversation somehow feels like the person is going to cry with the mention of COVID-times holiday. No one has the playbook for this one.

All we can do is turn to what we know, but what we know for the holidays isn’t fitting. So we keep stumbling, feeling stupid, feeling confused, and mostly just tired. Continue reading

I’m Ignoring the “Shoulds” Today – It’s So Freeing. And More Productive.

I just caught myself before doing a networking thing on my calendar that was actually just a “should” and not a true choice.

It would have been fine, but doing “shoulds” is not the life I want.

What’s great is that I now have the freeing energy to spend that time doing something that I actually want to do, that will move the needle more so!

Once again proving that the body knows the way, if I will just listen. Continue reading

Self-employment for Solo Professionals: Business Setup Logistics Made Simple. (USA)

When consultants, coaches, and other service professionals are getting set up for self-employment, I notice they often worry, as I did at first, about all the business logistics and mysteries you think you should know.

Maybe you’re even worried you’ll get in trouble for something you didn’t know.

I’ve seen many people let worries about these things really get in their way, thinking it’s something huge to tackle. They think they can’t do anything else before getting a business name, some kind of incorporated entity (e.g., LLC), etc.

I’m a self-employed business coach and I had to learn this stuff too, 11 years ago. Even though I understood a lot about marketing and business, the business setup stuff was new to me, having been an employee until then.

Business setup stuff felt like a big mystery to me, behind a curtain like in the Wizard of Oz.

waiting for the keys

It turns out it’s not that huge, especially for solo service providers like us. Important, yes, and sometimes tedious, yes. But much of it can be easier and is often not as urgent as you might think. In my case, I did it over time.

Let’s have a look. I’ll share some basics as well as what I have done as a coach.

There are plenty of things you’ve done that are harder than this. Don’t let business logistic worries stop you from going for your dreams.

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