From Good Girl to Fighting for the *Greater* Good. Let’s Be Paradigm Shifters, Together.

This is a funny combo of quiet and outspoken, and I know I’m not the only one:

I’m a recovering “good girl” who now openly questions the insane harmful systems that dominate around the globe.

In other words, when I was younger, I used to be too quiet in an attempt to seem “good” and to stay safe (beyond the normal level of the positive quiet of introverts).

Now my desire for the Greater Good is winning out, and I’ve become more outspoken, more and more each year.

I am determined to be part of moving from the dominant broken paradigm (money-driven and violent) to a life-affirming, nature-centric paradigm.

I know. It’s a long journey from here to there but I am finding it joyful along the way, whenever I turn in that direction. It’s way better on this road than the old crumbling one. Especially when I connect with kindred spirits.

This “New” Paradigm Is Our Ancestral Heritage

Triskele - symbol of natural resilience

This Triskele is an ancient symbol found in Ireland and other places in Europe, most likely about natural rhythms of the seasons.

A nature-centric world view is what research has shown me is the true ancestral heritage of all humans.

No wonder it feels so much more true to my own nature. No wonder so many are drawn to it.

This true nature paradigm has been alive all along, sometimes in the shadows and in Indigenous cultures around the globe, and it is expanding, despite pressures against it.

I’ll share more of what I mean about what’s unfolding, why it’s hard, and what can help. Continue reading

Heartache > Solidarity > Maybe a Big Awakening Too. (They seem to go together.)

For so long I have craved more progress about racial justice. It’s possible a tipping point is happening, and I am daring to feel some hope, amidst the grief of all the pain that has led to this increased uprising.

I think it’s always like this, that important awakenings come out of pain. When we add in Solidarity.

You know that relief you eventually feel after leaving a job or a relationship? At first, it’s so hard to face, and then it feels so right when you say “Enough is enough.” Getting there is often partly thanks to someone who was with us in the dark tunnel.

We are all in this together.

… forever.

And right now, many of us have had it with big trauma for our Black communities, and we are ready for change, and even more ready to bring about that change.

Whatever you’re feeling today, it’s OK. It’s normal. I am with you if your heart is aching.

I’m also writing today to check in on what you’re finding to turn to for solace and direction. I’ll share what’s helping me.

I’ve been sad, angry, bereft, ready to march in the streets…. then hopeful. Then repeat.

It’s interesting that in the time since I started writing this post a week ago, I’m finding more reasons for hope already. What a difference a week can make.

Finding Solace, Hope, and Direction

I am fortunate to have found some solace and direction in community, in long talks with honest friends, in stirring music, in nature, and now in the signs of progress already happening.

Here are some favorites that have provided some clarity and energy for me: Continue reading

The Worry About Being Seen as Too “Woo Woo”

You can listen to or read this post (about 5 min.)

This is one of the worries that can get in the way of you going for what you really want. When I first thought about becoming a coach, I was worried about it seeming too airy, and I even got that feedback from a few people.

I hear about this worry a lot from creative women and transformational professionals: a fear of being seen as too “woo-woo.” Familiar?

On the one hand, they want to talk about things like spirituality or things like the power of setting intentions, or a powerful energy healing experience, but they don’t want to be dismissed. I get that. First hand.

I’ve found myself trying to walk that line in my work. I’m starting to not care, and I notice a lot of others are not as worried. We are going for it with talking about love, intuition, prayer, bigger impact, healing the world, sending loving vibrations, alternative healing, soul’s work, life purpose, and more.

And yet that “woo woo” police still lives on in many minds. Negative comments about it are so common. I think we aren’t noticing the flaws in that wording or thinking.

This “woo woo” idea has so many layers and I want to break it apart. What is that fear actually about?

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Do You Confuse Extroversion with Confidence?

I think we all tend to confuse extroversion with confidence. So let’s re-think it.

I’m an introvert and when I speak up confidently about something, people sometimes say, “You must be an extrovert.”

Hey, I can be an introvert AND be confident and out-spoken. Or confident and quiet. (I can hear my confident introverted friend Jenn saying “Hell yeh.”)

Do you think introversion and confidence can go together? Think about it.

I was painfully shy in the past and I’m not anymore… but I’m still an introvert.

I believe that no matter how shy or anxious you might feel in certain social situations, there’s a way to find more ease and confidence. And you can still be an introvert (which is not the same as shyness). Continue reading

Quiet Folks Have a Lot To Say

When I was young and could hardly get words out of my mouth, I also knew I had so much to say. I was just nervous.

Later, as an adult, I wasn’t usually as caught up in the fear of speaking, but I was still an introvert and we tend to prefer thinking before speaking. I still had a lot to say, but it was hard to find my words in a group setting, especially at work where the stakes were higher. Know what I mean?

I gotta say this right off the bat. This is important, for the greater good, and for people you know and love:

Please do NOT assume silence is a lack of something important to say. You just might need to pause and listen, even if you feel impatient.

Quiet folks have a lot to say. We just like to think first.

Obviously this really matters to me, so pardon if I sound like I’m preaching. Trying to speak some truth. Bear with me. Continue reading