From Good Girl to Fighting for the *Greater* Good. Let’s Be Paradigm Shifters, Together.

This is a funny combo of quiet and outspoken, and I know I’m not the only one:

I’m a recovering “good girl” who now openly questions the insane harmful systems that dominate around the globe.

In other words, when I was younger, I used to be too quiet in an attempt to seem “good” and to stay safe (beyond the normal level of the positive quiet of introverts).

Now my desire for the Greater Good is winning out, and I’ve become more outspoken, more and more each year.

I am determined to be part of moving from the dominant broken paradigm (money-driven and violent) to a life-affirming, nature-centric paradigm.

I know. It’s a long journey from here to there but I am finding it joyful along the way, whenever I turn in that direction. It’s way better on this road than the old crumbling one. Especially when I connect with kindred spirits.

This “New” Paradigm Is Our Ancestral Heritage

Triskele - symbol of natural resilience

This Triskele is an ancient symbol found in Ireland and other places in Europe, most likely about natural rhythms of the seasons.

A nature-centric world view is what research has shown me is the true ancestral heritage of all humans.

No wonder it feels so much more true to my own nature. No wonder so many are drawn to it.

This true nature paradigm has been alive all along, sometimes in the shadows and in Indigenous cultures around the globe, and it is expanding, despite pressures against it.

I’ll share more of what I mean about what’s unfolding, why it’s hard, and what can help. Continue reading

Video Interview: My Inside View on Career and Business for Introverts

I was interviewed last month about my work. It was a fun conversation. You can watch our intimate conversation here.

We got into a lot of deep topics about making career choices, how self-employment can work for caring introverts, how I deal with some of my challenges, as well as things I’m really passionate about.

I’m amazed at how much of my interests and philosophy we were able to cover.

Topics we covered:

  1. Why people can’t see their own strengths and why knowing them is a key to making your work much easier.
  2. How introversion is a strength (more than you know).
  3. How introverts are naturally good at business and marketing.
  4. The problem with thinking work has to be hard, when it can and should be joyful.
  5. How to price your heart-centered services and deal with the inner conflicts about that. (Finding the sweet spot of fair exchange.)
  6. Introvert-friendly ways to attract clients.
  7. How “going it alone” all the time is a path to burnout and how introverts and solopreneurs find their way of co-creating, including how I co-create. (Always in balance with our needed alone time too.)
  8. My framework for how to clarity and activate the “best use of you” even in this time of great uncertainty.
  9. My courses, including my new career clarity course.
  10. Perfection, the connection to introversion, my struggle with it, and how I get around it and get things done.
  11. How I use my strength of empathy for my marketing.
  12. My passion for anti-racism, inclusion, social justice.
  13. Where to find me online.

I hope you enjoy it.

The interviewer is George Kao, a business consultant/trainer who understands authentic business.

I’d love to hear your reactions to some of what I said. Anything surprising in there? You can comment on my facebook post that has this interview. Or comment below if you prefer.

P.S. By the way, when I talked about co-creation, even for introverts, I don’t mean we need to work in teams. Solo focus time is still really important!! I just mean there are ways to not have to do everything alone. We need others for things like referrals and connections, help with technology, and doing the things you don’t like doing, and for getting useful feedback.

Val Nelson - video interview

Career Ideas for Introverts and HSPs – The 2020 Update for Meaningful and Viable Work

I’m sure you’ve noticed that things got shaken up quite a bit so far in 2020. That’s an understatement.

So much shake-up that our work decisions need a fresh look. What will be in demand now and in the future will be different in some ways. Some things will remain, some things will rise strongly, and some things will drastically change or go away.

As a result, I decided it’s time to update my career and self-employment ideas for you, to account for this twist in the road.

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Introvert Solopreneurs Q&A: “I hate adding to the noise in the market. What should I do?”

I’ve been preoccupied lately with trying to help where I can in this crazy time, including hosting some free gatherings for caring solopreneurs.

It has felt so good to do that, and it inspires me for what else I can offer.

This morning I decided to record a Zoom conversation with a fellow introverted solopreneur about this question I am hearing a lot lately from folks like us. I’ve got the video recording for you below.

The question I’m hearing goes something like this:

The market feels so full of noise and free offers. I hate the idea of adding to the noise and it seems like nothing will work right now….”

It’s a crazy time for sure. So many unknowns and worries. Those big hearts of ours can’t help but want to keep helping, but it’s confusing too.

There is a way to navigate in these strange waters, even while steadying ourselves.

With the help of my friend and colleague, Liesel Teversham, I addressed this concern, including what’s helping me, and what I think will help our kindred spirits too.

You can watch the conversation here:

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The Worry About Being Seen as Too “Woo Woo”

You can listen to or read this post (about 5 min.)

This is one of the worries that can get in the way of you going for what you really want. When I first thought about becoming a coach, I was worried about it seeming too airy, and I even got that feedback from a few people.

I hear about this worry a lot from creative women and transformational professionals: a fear of being seen as too “woo-woo.” Familiar?

On the one hand, they want to talk about things like spirituality or things like the power of setting intentions, or a powerful energy healing experience, but they don’t want to be dismissed. I get that. First hand.

I’ve found myself trying to walk that line in my work. I’m starting to not care, and I notice a lot of others are not as worried. We are going for it with talking about love, intuition, prayer, bigger impact, healing the world, sending loving vibrations, alternative healing, soul’s work, life purpose, and more.

And yet that “woo woo” police still lives on in many minds. Negative comments about it are so common. I think we aren’t noticing the flaws in that wording or thinking.

This “woo woo” idea has so many layers and I want to break it apart. What is that fear actually about?

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