You know those success models you think you’re supposed to be following? Like from the loud guy on that marketing webinar that left you hyperventilating?
Consider the source for those models:
It is almost always from someone trying to sell you their course by using words like “This is THE way or you’re doomed.” Right?
Too many people are letting those salesy messages get under their skin, which makes them feel like a loser. I’ve had people come see me in tears after taking on those external expectations as gospel. With all the email and social media messages like that, it can be an onslaught of “You’re not enough.”
I’ve been there, comparing my messy side to those supposed success stories. And comparing my quiet style to those extroverted ways of selling. Their messages can be so compelling! And so paralyzing.When I naturally resisted doing it their “expert” way, because it just didn’t feel like me, I found things went much better! Wait, you mean my way, off the beaten path, can actually work for me? It was freaky to me when that first happened, and I didn’t believe it for a while, even after it kept on working.
I see in hindsight that doing it my way IS where the gold is! It’s not a fluke, it’s what works for me.
Ya gotta tune into your own instincts and your audience’s responses, not someone else’s prescription for you.
Your inner compass is better than you think. So much better than you think.