Hey, leadership is not just extroverted male territory. Introverts and women make great leaders too. Some people know this but it bears repeating. This is proven by research. Many cultures, especially in the U.S., are still stuck in an outdated stereotype that leaders are extroverted men. Let’s look at the reality.
I’ve collected some of my favorite resources for effective leadership here. They are based on real-life stories and research, and they happen to be entertaining too. In each case, you can see what actually works.
It so happens that caring introverts are naturally great at the things that really work. Don’t worry extroverts, you can be good at leadership too. We need each other.
We all have natural gifts for leadership and we can all develop our talents even further. I hope these stories help.
In any of the resources here, you’ll gain some inspiration for becoming (or allowing) the kind of caring and effective leader you want to be. These are some of the resources I have shared with my leadership coaching clients. Psst, you don’t have to have a leader title to be a leader.
It strikes me that these are the two classic paths for introverts, which I’ll outline below. One path leads to pain and anxiety. The other leads to ease and confidence. Your choice.
While introversion doesn’t change, our response to it can change, and it makes a big difference.
These scenarios below also help to explain the connection between introversion, shyness, and anxiety.
Of course real life is not so linear as these models describe, but this makes a good bite-sized model. I hope you find this helpful.
I think you’d be surprised how much clothing comes up when talking with my career and business coaching clients. What is it about what we wear that seems to have such power over us?
Haven’t you put on a nice outfit and you suddenly feel like a million bucks? (Like The Red-Headed Diva shown in the photo.) Conversely, the wrong outfit can ruin your mood.
Sometimes we pretend we’re “above” that fashion stuff (while we secretly watch makeover shows). Let’s forget about judging or questioning it. Instead, let’s take a lesson from the drag queens who know the power of a great outfit!
Let’s consciously use that power of our clothes for our benefit.
Want to inspire someone to do something new? Want them to hire you, buy something, follow your lead, become more earth-friendly?
Start by drawing a compelling vision of the future outcome.
Or as Simon Sinek says in this persuasive video (embedded below), start with the WHY. Only then will people listen to the WHAT and HOW.
Sinek gives memorable examples of successful persuasion, from Martin Luther King, Jr., to the success of Apple. If these ideas are at all confusing, take a moment to watch this important video. And at least remember this:
[MLK] gave the ‘I have a dream’ speech, not the ‘I have a plan’ speech. ~Simon Sinek
I was filling out a business profile recently and noticed that alongside the blanks for my name and website address was a blank for “Your Superpower.” I love that! And it got me thinking.
What would you put? I discovered it was a worthwhile exercise to decide.
When I talk about superpowers, I’m talking about what are you uniquely very good at. Everyone has something that makes them stand out. It’s something that is so easy for you, yet is not typical for others.
In order to excel in your work or get that job offer, it helps to know what makes you unique.
I’ll explain how to find your superpowers and what I learned about my own superpowers.