Simple Truths for Being a Great Leader – That Caring Introverts Are Great At.

Hey, leadership is not just extroverted male territory. Introverts and women make great leaders too. Some people know this but it bears repeating. This is proven by research. Many cultures, especially in the U.S., are still stuck in an outdated stereotype that leaders are extroverted men. Let’s look at the reality.

I’ve collected some of my favorite resources for effective leadership here. They are based on real-life stories and research, and they happen to be entertaining too. In each case, you can see what actually works.

It so happens that caring introverts are naturally great at the things that really work. Don’t worry extroverts, you can be good at leadership too. We need each other.

We all have natural gifts for leadership and we can all develop our talents even further. I hope these stories help.

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In any of the resources here, you’ll gain some inspiration for becoming (or allowing) the kind of caring and effective leader you want to be. These are some of the resources I have shared with my leadership coaching clients. Psst, you don’t have to have a leader title to be a leader.

 

My Journey of Stumbling into Leadership

When I was younger, I was sure I could not be in leadership roles since I was so quiet. It was just a given. Plus I almost never saw a woman in leadership. (Role models matter.) But somehow I kept stumbling into leadership at work in ways that confused me at first. I tried deflecting it but it kept happening.

Then I noticed I secretly wanted to lead. I was offered a major promotion at age 26. Oh, umm. With a big gulp and a teeny bit of hope, I said yes. Was I worried? Yep.

I stumbled on a little book called the Tao of Leadership that revealed a new perspective of what leadership could be, which was not the norm in the U.S. where I live. It described how leadership was often about getting out of people’s way so they could do what they’re best at. Hmm. That idea planted a seed in me that my natural and softer approach was useful.

Long story short, I’ve held numerous leadership roles. Some good. Some awful. I see now that so much depended on whether other leaders shared my view about leadership as a service to employees.

I felt redeemed to see research coming out that introverted leaders were particularly good at helping teams perform well by something akin to getting out of their way. Source: “The Hidden Advantages of Quiet Bosses”, Harvard Business Review.

Harvard women conferenceToday I help many introverted women leaders (and future leaders) find their way, without having to wear an extrovert mask.

I even ended up speaking about these kinds of issues at a women’s leadership conference, at Harvard Business School.

My Favorite Resources for Leaders

Each of these well-done, story-driven resources are backed by research and point to refreshing ways of seeing what effective leadership really looks like — and it happens to be heart-centered and inclusive.

Articles:

TED Talks:

  1. Simon Sinek: How great leaders inspire action (18:05 min)
    – By studying successful leaders like Martin Luther King, Jr., and Apple Computers, Sinek reveals that they all start with Why (a compelling purpose). This talk, as well as his book Start with Why, are well-crafted examples of his own message.
  2. Margaret Heffernan: Forget the pecking order at work  (15:45 min)
    – She describes switching to a culture of helpfulness among everyone at work.
  3. Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us (10:47 min)
    – An animated version of Dan Pink’s talk based on his book of the same name, Drive. This is a shorter version of his TED talk.
  4. Linda Cliatt-Wayman: How to fix a broken school? Lead fearlessly, love hard. (17:07 min)
    – Get ready to be stirred up by strong conviction and big love, in the toughest circumstances.
  5. Julia Middleton: Cultural intelligence: The competitive edge for leaders (13:35 min)
    – In a fun talk, Middleton shares useful insights and basic principles to make multicultural concerns more manageable.
  6. Itay Talgam: Lead like the great conductors (20:45 min)
    – Turns out the most loved and lasting orchestra conductors strike a harmonious balance between clear direction and co-creating with the musicians, and they optimize it all with joy.
  7. Shonda Rhimes: My year of saying yes to everything (18:45 min)
    – This TV producer titan, and mom, reveals how she hit the wall of overwork and then found true joy again.

Books:

Your comments and ideas?

What has been helpful to you when you think about being a leader and an introvert? If you have favorite leadership resources to share, I’d love to know. You can share below.

I also welcome hearing if you have questions about my coaching for introverted leaders.

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