Maybe you’ve checked most of the boxes for what you were told Success looks like, but inside is another story. It might be hard to talk about it because you think no one will get it.
I have a window into this experience on a regular basis. When people contact me for coaching, unfulfilling “success” is often the case. Big heartache, often in secret.
It’s so common. Worse, a lot of people think that’s just how it is, or how it has to be: that work and fulfillment don’t go together unless you make too little money to sustain it.
I disagree. It doesn’t have to be that way.
I also have the good fortune to know a lot of people who have found another way. I include myself in that. I know it’s possible in my bones to have sustainability and meaningful work.
In my own work experience, the most miserable job of all was the one that looked the most “successful” on the outside! I have never realized that correlation until now. Interesting.
It Matters. It’s Possible.
It’s not only possible to have both fulfillment and sustainability in your work, I believe the world needs for more of us to align our work with our values.
We can’t just leave our hearts at home. That has a far bigger cost than trying a better route. A big cost to you, and a big cost to the world.
Align Work With My Values, Huh?
When I say align your work with your values, I don’t mean we all have to go work for a non-profit. There are a zillion options for doing meaningful work outside of non-profits.
It’s not as hard as you think to make a switch to something that works better for your heart and your sustainability.
But yes, transitions are challenging. It’s just that it is not an impossible challenge. You have faced many challenges and you’re better for it.
We Humans Actually Enjoy Challenges
One time I wrote down a list of ten peak experiences. (Which is a fun and very useful exercise.)
I noticed that in every case, the experience had some kind of challenge at the core, such as a wilderness backpacking experience when I was a teen.
It was the challenge+breakthrough that made each one a peak experience, but notice there had to be a challenge to create that pleasure.
We are built for challenge. All of us. Yes, even those so-called “risk-averse” types, like me, are built for challenge. We can handle it. We even enjoy it. It’s not all doom and gloom to face a challenge.
OK, now I bet you’re saying, But How? That’s good news. It means you are now thinking “Maybe it’s possible!”
Just be with that “Maybe” energy in your heart for today. Let it do its magic on you. The How can be figured out later.
P.S., Facing a challenge does not have to mean getting overwhelmed. There’s a middle way.