I hear questions from highly sensitive people (HSPs) about whether being a coach is a good fit for them. They have concerns about their energy, other people’s energy, and whether self-employment could work. These kinds of worries stopped me from exploring it for years.
I hope this post will help you find some answers. As an HSP myself, I love being a coach.
Willow is a coach and training facilitator for HSPs. He is from the UK. He understands High Sensory Intelligence®, as he calls it, and how it can be put to practical use as a coach, therapist, or healer.
At the end of his post below, I added notes about coach training and making self-employment work.
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Guest post by Willow McIntosh
Before I became a full time coach and facilitator I had several concerns as an HSP.
I wanted to know whether I would get too tired coaching day in day out.
I knew that from experience that when I was asked to coach people as a favour, I would often feel quite drained afterwards.
I also used to get worried about whether I would know what I was doing when it came to coaching professionally.
For instance, what would be the main area of coaching that I would focus on?
Also wouldn’t I be taking on my clients issues and negativity? How would this affect my own well being?
Yet what was on my the mind the most, was that I knew I wanted to work with people more than anything.
I had this deep calling within me to support the pursuit of purpose in others. It was the conversation I always wanted to have.
Then, everything changed for me when I began to get training to develop my high sensory coaching abilities.
When I began to understand that the area of life I was most fascinated by, was the very area I was naturally gifted at facilitating.
So since I started this path back in 2009, what do I know now about the concerns I have mentioned above?
Here’s how I answer these questions now:
Am I going to get too tired?As I got going in my business, I realised that we always have the option of creating the coaching business that will work for our needs.
For instance, you may decide you would like to run two or three sessions per day only, with a basis of core clients that pay well. It is not a requirement to have to do 8 or more sessions a day, every day.
You can still earn a living in this way with the potential to increase your income, without having to overwhelm yourself with too many clients.
This is a great question and a very important area to discuss. What is most important to consider when starting a coaching business is who your ideal clients are.
Usually our ideal clients are versions of ourselves. In other words people who share similar values, a similar purpose and a similar ‘why’ in life.
They are usually people who are a couple of steps behind on a similar life path to you.
When we meet people like this, there is an instant connection. We feel a resonance and a knowing inside that the person in front of us is willing to do the work required to make progress and evolve.
Conversely, when we meet or invite someone to a discovery call who is not ready and willing to do what is required to change, we will be able to feel that.
This is the difference between a coaching session that is energising and one that is draining. It boils down to who we are coaching.
This is a question I get a lot when speaking with an HSP who is interested in becoming a coach.
Whilst it may not be clear right now, your own life path is your credibility as a coach.
You will find that the area of coaching that appeals to you the most, will be an area that already both fascinates and challenges you.
In other words, there will be an innate interest in you about a particular area of life. Sometimes this takes a little facilitation to help you see what this is, however I assure you it is there.
Once you identify this area, you will see that you already have a lifetime of working with this challenge.
The good news is you don’t need to have mastered this area. The fact that you have been in the arena of challenge, will mean you already have a great deal of experience in this area.
As a high sensory person, you have the advantage of being able to process the world around you more deeply. This means there is a wonderful phenomena awaiting your discovery…
It means that the ability to process more deeply serves the area of life that most fascinates you.
It is a phenomena we have observed in all the high sensory people we have trained over the years at Inluminance [a coaching training that is now closed].
Your version of this is awaiting your discovery and will help you to realise just how suited and naturally gifted you are at coaching or supporting your own ideal clients.
Once you are clear on your own innate area of expertise, you will also reveal your own innate methodology.
Once you have some experience of seeing this in action during sessions with your ideal clients, you will begin to understand your value more and more.
This then opens several possibilities. You may just want to work with a core set of clients on an ongoing basis.
However you also have the opportunity of working in groups on an ongoing basis, if this resonates for you. This will allow you to scale and earn more.
Once you become established in your own methodology, you will have the opportunity to create courses, books, programs and other valuable resources for your niche, potentially increasing your earning potential.
The most important thing to recognise is that you are unique and no one has had the life path you have. Even if your area of expertise is common, no one else has the angle of experience and perception you do.
All of this can be quite difficult to see by ourselves, and this was the case for me too.
To be able to speak to another HSP who has walked this path for many years, can be invaluable. Such as speaking with a coach who is also a highly sensitive person.
Learn more about Willow and what he’s up to these days: Willow McIntosh on LinkedIn.
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Coach Training Tips from Val
I believe it’s important to get some training as a coach. It will be enjoyable and improve your confidence and ability to make it work for you. Starting a training can actually help you know if it’s a good fit. You don’t have to commit to the whole training process to give it a try.
I did an intensive coaching training with an ICF-accredited training called the Co-Active Training Institute. I found it very valuable.
Already a coach and wondering how to make it work?
I invite you to check out my coach mentoring and business coaching, and/or my Gentle Bridge to Self‑employment course, both of which are especially geared for HSPs and/or introverts.