There’s something about this idea of being the “wrong age” that comes up so much when I first speak with someone about their career or self-employment concerns.
You might be surprised that I hear this same worry no matter the person’s age! They can be 20, 30, 40, 50, or 60, and somehow they think it’s the “wrong age.” I would laugh if it weren’t so sad.
For instance, I hear all these kinds of things, regularly:
- “I’m 33 so it’s really late to be figuring this out.”
- “I’m 25 so it’s really late to be figuring this out.”
- “I’m embarrassed I don’t know what I want to do at age 50.”
- “Nobody will hire me now that I’m over 50.”
- “I’m too old to do that.”
- “I’m too young to be taken seriously.”
- “I’m too old to start a business.”
- “I’m too young to start a business.”
- “They want younger workers who know the latest technology.”
- “They want someone with more years of experience.”
Here’s what I’ve discovered is more true than any of that: Continue reading
I heard this the other day, and I realize I’ve heard something like it many times:
I can’t tell if I should stick it out at this job or look for something new? It’s only been a couple years and it took so much to get here, so maybe I’ll just get better at it? But I’m so drained…”
I’m just gonna tell you like it is, like what I told her.
If you feel drained, something needs to change. That won’t go away if nothing changes.
Especially after a couple years in her case, that’s enough data to know something is off. The body doesn’t lie.
Change doesn’t have to mean you leave that job. There could be a middle ground between just stay the course as is, and leave. But for sure something needs to change in this case. I’ll say it again. The body knows.
I’ll explain how to figure it out in this post. It could be easier than you think. Continue reading
So many people don’t know the right direction for their work in the world, for their career or business. Not to mention confusion around how it fits in with the Greater Good.
I love that some people are asking the question about serving in a meaningful way. Yet I know they worry about how to do good work without overwhelm, or whether they can actually find or create meaningful work that can also meet their needs for income and rest.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could find the overlap between feeling good for you and your needs, and feeling good for the needs of the Greater Good, all together? That’s what I call the “Best Use of You”. It feels great, not draining.
Work can feel great. And it should if it’s truly the best use of you.
I have found ways that work, for me, and the way I came to it seems to also work for others, even in many different circumstances. We are finding ways to serve the Greater Good in our work, without overwhelm. I’ll explain. Continue reading
I was interviewed last month about my work. It was a fun conversation. You can watch our intimate conversation here.
We got into a lot of deep topics about making career choices, how self-employment can work for caring introverts, how I deal with some of my challenges, as well as things I’m really passionate about.
I’m amazed at how much of my interests and philosophy we were able to cover. I’ve got the video for you here. Continue reading
The key to knowing when it’s the right career or business path for you is to follow what feels True to you. Anything else leads to burnout at some point. Burnout is the worst.
But following your Truth? Hmm, that can be confusing and hard to do, huh? I didn’t know how to do that for many years. And yep, I burned out.
I’ve discovered that part of why it’s hard to sense what’s right for us is that most of us are focusing on what’s going wrong (because that’s how the brain works).
So then we miss the small signs of what is going right or what we could build on to make things even better.
It’s like a big blind spot. But we can get around it.
I explain a shortcut for knowing the right direction in this post.