Introvert/HSP Re-entry Dread? Re-considering Work and Socializing Post-pandemic.

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I hear some introverts and highly sensitive people (HSPs) saying they don’t want to go back to certain pre-pandemic things like working back at the office, or attending certain social events.

They like having the break from the pressure to be around others when they don’t feel like it. And they’re seeing how much the break has helped them. I can feel it too.

Are you having any of those re-entry dread feelings?

Now is a good time to reconsider how we used to do things, and what we’ll choose differently going forward.

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Honoring Your Perseverance

One year ago, the World Health Organization declared COVID-19 a global pandemic. It’s also when my state closed the schools and asked us to turn our lives upside down, for an unknown length. A lot changed in an instant.

It’s been a vague kind of trauma, that effects us in some invisible ways (as well as visible ways).

We’ve all been through a lot of change to say the least. Have you honored all you’ve been through and what you’ve learned? In your personal life, and in your work life? In your heart?

Maybe this anniversary is a good moment to pause, to look back, see where you are now, and to look forward with fresh and wiser eyes. I invite us all to bring a sense of grace and acceptance of all feelings that might be naturally arising at this time.

I want to honor you for your perseverance and all the ways you’ve worked hard to protect others. That means a lot to me. Thank you.

I notice a lot of uneasy feelings in those around me, perhaps in that way a trauma anniversary can creep up on us.

I wrote a quick poem, below, to attempt to capture this moment, with this intention:
May we find some gentleness for whatever feelings arise, and may we honor ourselves and each other for our perseverance. We are stronger than we knew.

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I’m Ignoring the “Shoulds” Today – It’s So Freeing. And More Productive.

I just caught myself before doing a networking thing on my calendar that was actually just a “should” and not a true choice.

It would have been fine, but doing “shoulds” is not the life I want.

What’s great is that I now have the freeing energy to spend that time doing something that I actually want to do, that will move the needle more so!

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Wrong Field? Wrong Place? Is It Me? What To Change When It Feels Bad at Work.

Image: Confusing arrowsI heard this the other day, and I realize I’ve heard something like it many times:

I can’t tell if I should stick it out at this job or look for something new? It’s only been a couple years and it took so much to get here, so maybe I’ll just get better at it? But I’m so drained…”

I’m just gonna tell you like it is, like what I told her.

If you feel drained, something needs to change. That won’t go away if nothing changes.

Especially after a couple years in her case, that’s enough data to know something is off. The body doesn’t lie.

Change doesn’t have to mean you leave that job. There could be a middle ground between just stay the course as is, and leave. But for sure something needs to change in this case. I’ll say it again. The body knows.

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Work that Helps the “Greater Good”? How About Good for Your Well-being at the Same Time?

So many people don’t know the right direction for their work in the world, for their career or business. Not to mention confusion around how it fits in with the Greater Good.

I love that some people are asking the question about serving in a meaningful way. Yet I know they worry about how to do good work without overwhelm, or whether they can actually find or create meaningful work that can also meet their needs for income and rest.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could find the overlap between feeling good for you and your needs, and feeling good for the needs of the Greater Good, all together? That’s what I call the “Best Use of You”. It feels great, not draining.

What is the best use of you? Good work without burnout? There are simple steps to find your way.

Work can feel great. And it should if it’s truly the best use of you.

I have found ways that work, for me, and the way I came to it seems to also work for others, even in many different circumstances. We are finding ways to serve the Greater Good in our work, without overwhelm. I’ll explain. Continue reading