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Connection That Works For Introverts and HSPs. (We Need Connection Too.)

We all need connection, and yet it seems like there’s so much in the way of it, and not just during COVID. These are the main barriers I hear about:

  1. Introverts and highly sensitive people (HSPs) can get overstimulated and exhausted with certain kinds of connection.
  2. Some societal messages tell us we’re too “needy” or a “failure” if we were to reach out for connection or support.

No matter who you are, we are pack animals at heart. We need each other. Even the “lone wolf” idea for success is a myth; wolves are pack animals too.

[Image: Humans are pack animals too.]

Introverts and HSPs have learned how much we need connection during this pandemic when isolation got to be too much at times. We need some connection for sure, but not a ton, and not all kinds.

I know from experience that there are ways around those concerns listed above. I’ll explain more in this post and suggest some kindred spirit communities you might like.

Getting Past the Classic Barriers to Connection

Here’s my short version of how to get around the two classic barriers I listed above.

  1. Introverts and HSPs can enjoy and feel nourished by connecting our way.
    When it’s something like a group of 2-6 kindred spirts having meaningful conversations, that seems to be our sweet spot. I see it happen all the time. What a difference it makes.
  2. We need to say no to those worries about being “too needy” or “failing,” and take small steps forward anyway.
    You are NOT too needy or a failure. The need for connection is what’s true.
    This is a place to be brave and to stretch a little. Try out something that feels right, but not overwhelming. One work-around is to check in on someone else who might want some connection. Follow your instincts.

My “Independent Streak” Challenges

The independent streak in me has trouble letting in help. Ugh, I have resisted big time (fear of feeling stupid, most often), and I hate even admitting that right now.

But sometimes I let in some help and it works so well that I am reminded to keep opening up, when my intuition says yes. Lately I’m on a streak of enjoying team energy and loving it.

With practice, my asking muscles are now pretty good.

Having “teammates” has literally made my self-employment journey possible, and more fun too.

Kindred Spirit Communities You Might Like

If you are trying to navigate a career transition and/or self-employment, it can feel too hard and too lonely. It’s hard to balance it all.

Getting practical guidance and moral support for the journey can help bring clarity, calm, and progress.

I love facilitating small group programs (up to 6 people each) that are especially geared for introverts and highly sensitive people (HSPs), from meeting style to the kinds of career/business guidance.

I just got this description from one of my group members today, with permission to share:

I’ve rarely felt a sense of community. I joined the Explorers group and it became an incredibly nourishing part of my life. Introverts are wired to seek solitude, so it can feel like a lot of work to create new meaningful connections. Val finds incredible people and then folds you into a group that creates an intimate structure for sharing, learning, and support. It feels magical.
I recently felt able to take a leap of faith in my career because I know I’m not alone: I have friends who see my gifts and will remind me if I forget.
~ Jessye

I’m expanding my groups, so now is the time to chat with me about it if this intrigues you.

You can check out the affinity group that fits for you. You’ll find videos, testimonials, and details via these links:

  1. Explorers – for those exploring new directions for making your truer work come to life, such as through self-employment, employment, or a hybrid.
  2. SOULpreneurs – for heart-centered solopreneurs who want a fulfilling and sustainable self-employment journey.
  3. Coaches Mentoring Community – for coaches who want more ease with their self-employed coaching journey.

If it feels right, you can contact me for a free call about it, via the group links above.

As you can tell, I’m a big believer in the power of genuine community, the kind that works for introverts and HSPs, like me.

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Val Nelson

Val Nelson

I’ve been a self-employed career/business/purpose coach since 2009. I help introverts and HSPs (like me) who want to make a difference — in a way that fits our practical needs too.
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